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February 12, 2021
by namktqs
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Avoid Any “Awkward Silence” With This 1 Bizarre Trick

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“I’ve heard this tragic story far too many times…”

You can feel this excruciating moment coming on from a mile away.

The conversation with this cute girl started off great. She’s smiling, laughing, clearly becoming more interested and more attracted as you continue.

Then…it happens.

Call it a brain fart, a blank mind, a loss for words. The only thing that matters is, it brings the conversation to a complete hault and you can feel her attraction levels for you dropping faster than a drunk girl in stilletos.

So what can you do to pull the conversational nose-dive back into the high flying interaction it was?

You dig into your toolbox. Your social toolbox, that is.

I’ll share with you my absolute favorite conversation-saving tool.

This is a guaranteed way to save any conversation with a girl, PLUS it’s so perfectly constructed, that it easily allows for sexual innuendo to get her mind “in the right place” while still being in the context of pure, NON-NEEDY and FUN banter.

It’s a little game I like to call “FMK” and it will be your new best friend.

When you deploy the FMK game, any drooping conversation will instantly be turned around.

You will leap beyond the average lame guys who approach her with the same old boring pickup lines and dull conversations.

So it goes like this:

When you start to run out of things to say, just as you can feel that her attraction is about to start dipping down…

You turn to her, and you say:

“Hey, let’s play a game real quick.”

Watch as her eyes sparkle with curiosity. This is a departure from the normal night-time drivel she’s used to dealing with. She will almost certainly invite you to proceed.

Continue to the game. Start to glance around the room, assessing the other guys you see and start to point them out one by one, and asking her “ok, so would you fuck, marry or kill him?”

She’ll laugh at first. Then she’ll look over at your target and size him up.

Choose different types of guys representing the spectrum of personality types and behaviors.

A jock. A douchebag. A nerd. A handsome debonair type. A bad-boy rocker. A business guy.

This will do a few things:

1) You will get an insight into what she values in a man, and how she operates. She will give very direct clues to how she wants to be seduced.

If she says “fuck” to the rocker dude, “marry” to the nerdy guy, and “kill” to the guy in a suit…then you can guess that she’s got a wild side, she doesn’t like guys with a lot of structure, and she’s a secret nerd.

Think about that… she’ll basically be giving you a HUGE hint into how to seduce her.

If you know the 4 things that every girl needs to know before she thinks about sleeping with a guy, it will pretty much be deal-closer.

More on that in a few…

2) You can continue bantering and teasing her. This is so crucial to the first stage of the interaction.

Keep conversation light, non-needy (teasing her playfully) and fun!

Make fun and silly projections about who you guess she’d fuck, marry and kill.

It will be remarkably easy as she’s alternating between giggling at her own qwerky tastes, cringing at the dopey guys, and switching to her “ooh la la” voice with the guys that turn her on.

3) Which brings me to my next point…SHE WILL GET TURNED ON.

Remember, you are asking her to bring the thought “who do I want to fuck?” into her mind, and all in the context of an experience that was generated by and shared with you…and only you.

4) Finally…she will see that you are 100% confident in your sexuality and your ability to attract women. You can confidently discuss the theoretical thought of her sleeping with other men, and that doesn’t threaten you.

99.99% of dudes would be terrified to even suggest that she even look at another guy when he’s talking to her!

Your confidence here will be very, very sexy to women.

After playing this game for even a few minutes, she will be extremely turned on by your creativity, your playfulness, and your confidence…

This sets you up PERFECTLY to transition into the next stage of interaction, build upon the sexual energy in this game, especially if you’ve been properly mixing in the right “sexual triggers” that all women have.

This is part of the 4 things that every girl needs to decide to sleep with a guy.

If you haven’t learned about the sexual triggers yet, stop everything and watch this presentation (this shit will change how you attract women forever!) :

Learn how to activate secret “sexual triggers” <— Get her instantly turned on

Cheers,

PS FMK is a great tool to have in your toolbox. There are several others that will absolutely make meeting women a breeze when you go out.

“The Free Drink Technique” and “The Kiss Technique” are a couple that changed my life forever when I discovered them.

Learn more about the sexual triggers, and these amazing secret tools in this free presentation:

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Mr-Attract

February 12, 2021
by namktqs
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What makes an average looking guy instantly become “hot”?

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If you talk to any number of super hot girls and approach them, you will start to see one thing over and over – she is going to test you. If you fail these tests, you will not not hook up with her. Period. You will join the piles of men she’s had to reject because they weren’t confident enough.
The GOOD news is, that there is a way to pass these tests nearly 100% of the time.

Most really hot girls’ tests are enough to make men run away with their tails between their legs. If you know the technique to passing, then you are going to be in the VERY small percentage of guys who make it through her defenses and are actually a sexual candidate.

If you don’t know this one secret technique, you will fail these tests and never gain entrance into the world of attracting and sleeping with truly beautiful women.

These tests can be one of two types: compliance tests or congruence tests. Today, we are talking about compliance tests. First, let me explain a bit more about these tests and WHY hot women NEED them.

A compliance test is an act or a statement that checks to see if you are going to do whatever she wants. If you comply, she will have gained control over the conversation, the interaction, and you. It seems like they want you to fail these tests so they have the power, right?

Fortunately, that is not the case. When women give compliance tests, they really do want you to pass them. It is their way of filtering out a truly confident, attractive guy from the rest. It may sound strange, but beautiful women honestly can’t just look at a guy an say “he’s good looking, therefore he’s attractive.” They need much more because they are approached by so many different types of guys. A really attractive girl will get hit on 10-15 times A DAY.

That’s 3,650 times a year (conservatively) that an attractive woman is hit on. She will start to see patterns in the ways guys behave if they are actually confident or not, and that has nothing to do with looks.

The compliance test is really a test to see whether or not they’re going to be able to get away with whatever they want. Why you want to test this? Well, they want to find out whether or not you’re used to beautiful women hitting on you or whether or not you’re used to being with beautiful women.

This is a very crucial concept. If you are used to being with beautiful women, you will not bend over backwards for a beautiful woman just because she wants something. Instead, you will respond in a way that sort of puts the compliance back on her.

Beautiful women are guaranteed to give you compliance tests and if you fail the compliance tests, you are guaranteed not to attract them. So it’s very crucial that you learn this.

How do you recognize compliance tests? Basically, look for any demand that she gives you within a short time of meeting that seems small, but gets you to follow.

One very classic compliance test is “buy me a drink.”

Women go for throat here when you’re in the bar because they don’t have a whole lot of time to figure out who is attracted and who is confident, who’s not. How you respond to “buy me a drink” is very crucial when you’re in a bar.

There are other small things like “why don’t you wait here while I go to the bathroom.” or “give me a kiss on the cheek” or even “will you take a picture for us?”

Anything that seems kind of harmless is typically a compliance test especially if it’s from a really beautiful woman and you don’t want to deny the compliance test, what you want to do is take control over it and add your own terms.

For example, if someone says, “Take our pictures.” Then you will say, “okay, I will but I want you to take one picture for you and one picture of how I ask you to take it.” So if they refused to do this, and you go, “Alright, well find some other guy.”

You will actually find some other guy to take the camera and say, “Hey man, can you take their picture?” And you just have them take your picture.
But usually they will say okay fine, you take the picture and you go “okay, now I want you to give me a sexy look.” Then take their picture. “Okay now, make a silly face”, take a picture. And continue to make them do different pictures as long as you can think of them.

Essentially what you’re doing now is you are getting compliance from them. This is crucial. This is called flipping the script and you will hear a lot about this. Flipping the script is one of the most powerful things that you can do to a woman that you don’t know and it will create a massive amount of intrigue and a massive amount of attraction that will be built.

So from now on, know and recognize when women is giving you a compliance test. Don’t stop and don’t reject the compliance test. Add your own terms.

When you start doing this, you are going to see the truly beautiful women in the bar start to treat you in a completely different way. You can actually watch other guys approach, get shot down and see it ruin their nights as you can easily navigate the sea of compliance tests and come out looking like a rockstar, making her more and more attracted to you since you’re the kind of guy who won’t just do exactly what she wants.

This is one of the “Sexual Triggers” that drive beautiful women wild. The rest of them are revealed in this presentation:

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Mr-Attract

February 12, 2021
by namktqs
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How to make out with a girl in 40 seconds or less – for real

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If you’ve ever seen a guy in a bar walk up to a girl he didn’t know and make out with her almost immediately, it can be a completely mind-blowing experience. It may seem like it’s magical or out of reach – a special ability or super-power that someone is born with.

But it’s not. And it can be broken down into a few simple steps you can follow in order to make the same thing happen for you. In this article, I’m going to break down those steps.

The first step is to realize that about 90% of the difference between someone who’s really good with women and someone who’s not so good or mediocre with women, is the ability to spot a woman who’s ready to make out.

I know it sounds kind of crazy at first, but it’s true. If you walk into a bar and go up to any woman without knowing what signs to look for, your odds of success go WAY down.

You must know how to spot that woman who’s already in this “make-out ready” state, so you can walk up and be “that guy.”

Don’t buy into the myth that women don’t want this to happen.

Women are as sexual (if not more sexual) than guys are. Most of the time, this “turbo” make-out session never happens, because so many guys are afraid to go for it. And when this doesn’t happen, the girls end up going home alone or worse.. staying being kind of mean to a lot of guys in the bar/being resentful and angry because no one’s approaching them.

By putting this technique into practice, You want to discover how to see the women who you’re able to make out with in 40 seconds or less in the first place.

There are a few excellent indicators that will (especially in a bar atmosphere) tell you if a woman is game, or ready for an instant make-out session.

What To Look For

The first indicator is a woman looking down often. When a woman looks down often, she is accessing her emotions.

Let me explain… When we look in different directions, we access different parts of our brain. These are called “Eye Accessing Cues.” When a woman is in a bar setting and looking down, she’s accessing her emotional brain.

If she makes eye contact with you, looks down then back up again, she’s saying: “I have an emotional response to you looking at me and I’m looking down.” And if she tilts her head down as well (and doesn’t just use her eyes to look down), she’s physically dropping herself a little bit lower and showing submission.

This gives you the ability to walk up and be the dominant man.

Now, if she looks at you, smiles and doesn’t look away, this could be a lot more difficult situation. Socially, she’s meeting you head on, and not showing immediate submission.

Women who you’re going to be able to walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds or less should automatically take the submissive role as a woman. That’s one quality which shows you’ll be able to quickly make out with her.

Another quality is that she’s actively looking around to make eye contact. This is crucial. A woman who is engaged with someone specifically and she’s not looking away is not going to be as easy to seduce in 40 seconds or less. It’s going to take much longer.

Again, you’re going to have to play a totally different kind of game when you walk up. You can’t just walk up and make out with her.

So instead, if you see a woman who is in a conversation but she’s constantly looking around and trying to make eye contact with a lot of people, this is probably a very, very likely opportunity for you and that’s a woman you can walk up to and immediately become sexual with.

Other traits are revealed in the way they’re moving and how they’re dressed. Let’s say she’s standing with her feet about shoulder-width apart. It’s less likely that a woman standing like this is going to be available for you to walk up and dominate. That’s because she’s standing in a dominant position, with stronger body language and she’ll probably be a lot more resistant.

Instead, you want to find a woman who takes up less space. She has her legs closer together and seems to be outside of a group, looking around a little bit.

Another thing is the way she’s dressed. If she’s dressed in a way that’s super flashy and attracting lots of attention, she probably isn’t the kind of girl you can walk up to and make out with in 40 seconds.

This kind of women is looking for attention – not for someone to dominate them. What you want is someone who’s in between “I don’t care” and “Stare at my tits, bitch!” Somewhere between wearing sweatpants with an elastic waistband to the bar and done up really, really beautiful and sexy with a really low-cut shirt. You want to find someone who’s in between those two extremes.

A lot of women who are on vacation fall into this realm. They don’t want to over dress or under dress, and don’t know how the bar atmosphere is going to be. They’ll usually come in open-minded, and start looking around trying to make connections. This is an excellent situation for you (and her, of course).

That’s what to look for and how you spot her in the first place. If you see some of those, you want to watch her for a second. If you think that she is the kind of person you can walk up to and do this, then proceed.

If not, I’d actually suggest you proceed anyway, just to see what happens.

Next, right after you get that done and you’ve seen your girl (there are probably three or four of these girls in a bar at any given moment) you’re going to walk up and start the scary part.

What To Do

This is where the most powerful kind of frame control comes in. It’s very, very important that you understand how to control someone else’s frame if you want to come across like you’re a pro at this.

By “frame,” I basically mean their “reality.” You’re controlling what they experience. You have to be able to stay in control of that experience in order to really bring her to the level where she feels comfortable making out with you immediately.

I’m going to give you a very quick, punchy, fast way of doing this. I’ll explain as quick as possible; that way you can go straight out and try it…

Here’s what I would say, word-for-word… Walk up to a girl, when you get up to her and right when she makes eye contact with you, I want you to SLOWLY put your finger up by your lips and say this, “Shhh…”

Then slow your speech pattern down and deepen your vocal tonality. And immediately say, “Wait just one moment.”

You can also say, “Stop for one minute.” I suggest using a bit of NLP here. Whenever someone hears “stop,” “wait,” or “don’t,” they immediately register whatever comes after that.

So if I say, “Don’t think of a black cat,” what do you do? Immediately, you think of a black cat and whatever version of one you have in your head.

So if I said, “Don’t try to make out with me,” or “Don’t make out with me right now,” girls are going to be consciously hearing, “Don’t make out with me,” but their subconscious minds will be hearing, “Make out with me right now!”

You’re attempting to sort of use real-life Inception to get making-out with you to be HER idea. She should be thinking, “I should make out with this guy.”

Now, during frame control you’ll be using a lot of these subconscious triggers in order to get this to go as fast as possible. Please only use this for good. There are lots of evil ways to use this.

Don’t try to seduce women who don’t want to be seduced. Again, that’s one of the reasons why it’s important that you notice a woman who really does want to be seduced by a man.

So to recap so far: you walk up, you put your finger over your lips and you tell her to “Shhh” for a second and then you say a sentence that starts with “don’t” or “wait” or “stop.”

My typical is “Don’t worry… right now.” That’s all I say. And I slow that speech down – “Don’t…worry………. right now.”

Then I go right into the next statement, which is, “You and I are going to have a secret. We’re going to secretly kiss and no one will know.”

And as I’m saying this, I’m leaning in… and you’ll be doing the same when you do it. You’re leaning in ever… so… slowly. At the same time, you’re looking from her eyes down to her lips and back up to her eyes again.

This is called “Triangulating.” Count to three looking at her eyes, then look down to her lips and count to two, look back up and count to three, look down and count to two… etc. Do that about three or four times as you’re talking.

This can be a lot to remember, so you may want to practice it a little bit. I wouldn’t expect you’re going to get it perfect the first time.

So again, you say, “We’re going to have a secret. We’re going to kiss and no one is going to know.” From here on out, you’re really just filling up space with words as you’re leaning in so you’re still controlling the interaction.

So you’re going to very, very slowly, take your right or left hand – whichever one is more accessible – and reach around her back. You won’t pull her in toward you or anything yet, just touch her very lightly.

Signs That It’s Working

Is she looking at your lips? If she’s looking at your lips, you have a green light to go forward. If she’s looking at your eyes, you may want to wait a second, or turn around and turn back again and try it again.

This resets the meter in her mind, so to speak. When you turn around and turn back again, most people consider this to be a fresh start in a conversation. It’s a strange loop-hole in psychology.

For some reason, that’s how we are as humans. When someone turns away then turns back, we give them another chance moving forward. So if you’re getting some resistance, turn around, turn back, smile, and continue. If she gives you resistance again, you probably should back off and find another woman.

If she’s looking at your lips and seems to be very comfortable and excited, then proceed. You’ll move in very closely and speak almost directly into her ear.

!Important!

In a loud environment like a bar, you’ll want to speak louder, but don’t raise your voice. Make your voice very low so that you have to be very, very close to her ear for her to hear.

Then you’re going to keep talking… What I usually say is, “No one is going to see this. It’s just going to be our little secret. I promise I won’t tell anybody only if you promise that you won’t tell anybody either.”

As I’m saying this into her ear, I make sure that she’s feeling my breath on her neck. So I’m sort of breathing out a little bit more than normal as I’m speaking so she can feel that hot air on her neck.

This usually gets a very visceral, deep, sexual response from women when you do this.

As you’re speaking really close to her ear, you’ll, very slowly, press your cheek against hers as you’re talking. Then you’ll move you head over so that your mouth is closer to hers, and then… you’ll start kissing her.

And if you do this right, you start out with just one soft peck… then go straight into making out. It may not seem like it in this description, but 40 seconds is a long time. This process can happen in a lot less than 40 seconds – I’ve done it in less time, and I’ve seen other guys do it, too.

Practice It

What I want you to do is practice this approach. Maybe go for a minute or two at first, and then get to where you can do this in about 40 (or even 30) seconds.

You won’t use this tactic all the time. But when the opportunity is right, it’s really good to have this in your seduction arsenal. You want to make sure that you have the right kind of tools for the job, so to speak.

Whenever you see a girl who’s in that state and ready to be seduced, if you beat around the bush, engage in small talk or generally waste time, she’ll be turned off and you’ve lost a golden seduction opportunity.

Instead, when you spot this, you want to be able to see her, know that that’s what she wants, go in, and give it to her immediately. This is the major difference between guys who are rock stars at walking up and seducing a woman… and guys who wish that they were great at quickly seducing a woman.

There are a lot of other success factors as well. There are techniques on how to speak with the right tonality… how to touch her that allows her to feel comfortable and doesn’t turn off any of her weird alert switches… specific NLP triggers that you can use to connect and make sure she’s totally in your zone.

What’s taken me from a normal dude to a well-respected dating coach, is knowing a lot of short-cuts like this and knowing when to bring them out. And these short-cuts can also improve your game with women.

Remember these characteristics in women who want to be seduced, and remember – it is possible to make out with a woman in 40 seconds or less.

Discover my other top 3 “Seduction Secrets” in this special video presentation.

Mr-Attract

October 14, 2020
by namktqs
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7 Keys to Feeling Happier in Life

Happiness does not come from reaching the top of the mountain, or by reaching our goals…

…It comes from LOVING the journey and the process that gets us there.

It doesn’t come from realising we no longer need to change and grow…

…It comes from realising we CAN change and grow, and that is something to be EXCITED about.

Studies have shown that happier people become more productive and achieve more of their goals in life…

…Yet unfortunately, so many people believe in the myth that happiness is caused the other way around (that they must ‘achieve success’ in order to feel happy).

“I’ll be happy when …” is a dangerous statement to make. And it sets people up to go months, or years, without allowing themselves to feel happy.

And even when reaching the top of a mountain, the human condition is to feel elated for a moment…

…Only to then see that as the new normal, and now need to achieve the next goal to feel happy.

There are 4 main chemicals in the brain that influence our feelings of happiness…

  1. Dopamine
  2. Oxytocin
  3. Serotonin
  4. Endorphins

And each plays a different role in how we experience happiness.

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Dopamine is what we feel when we enjoy striving for a goal.

Oxytocin is what we feel when we are being social.

Serotonin is what we feel when we are in a good mood. Interestingly up to 90% of Serotonin is produced in the gut, and is heavily influenced by what we feed ourselves.

Endorphins are associated with the fight or flight response, and are what helps push you through challenging periods in life, or with fighting towards difficult goals.

Here are 7 keys to feeling happier in life…

By feeling happier on a daily basis, you’ll in turn find that your productivity will improve AND you’ll achieve more of what you want in your life…

1. Cultivate a Growth-Oriented Mindset

According to Carol Dweck, Professor of Psychology at Stanford University, there are two main mindsets we can navigate through life with … Growth and Fixed.

People with a fixed mindset believe that their abilities and intelligence levels are static. So they tend to plateau in everything they work towards, as they believe they have reached their predetermined potential.

In reality, they tend to achieve far less than their true potential. And go through life less happy than those with a growth oriented mindset.

Those with a Growth Mindset believe that their abilities and intelligence can improve over time.

That means they can not only get better at learning a particular skill, but their actual ability to learn can improve also.

Those with a growth mindset tend to feel happier, as they see their potential for success as being far greater than those with a static mindset.

This belief in their potential leads to a more positive view of the world, and also leads to much more positive long term results in life.

Those with the fixed mindset tend to get more consumed with ‘proving themselves’ while those with the growth mindset, get more consumed with taking action that leads to the outcomes they are looking for.

The growth mindset leads to a powerful passion for learning, and for stretching yourself (even when things aren’t going well).

The growth mindset leads to enjoying obstacles and seeing them and opportunities for learning and self improvement.

2. Develop and Optimists View of the World

In many situations optimists and pessimists are both right … However, in life, optimists tend to be happier and achieve more success.

Optimists also suffer less anxiety, depression and stress than pessimists. Optimists are also more action-oriented than pessimists.

So it’s not just what happens to you that is an important determinant of how happy you are … It’s how you interpret the situations as they happen.

Billy and Sarah both lost their jobs at a magazine publishing company.

Billy took it badly, and while he sent out job applications to 30 companies, he took 3 months before he finally found a replacement job. His new job quickly became highly stressful and he is upset that bad things keep happening to him.

Sarah was upset at losing her job. She had a cry on her husband’s shoulder but woke up the next morning with a new lease on life. She decided that this was going to be an opportunity to make life even better than before.

So she wrote up her new resume, and decided to get picky about the jobs she applied for. She applied for 7 jobs and got an interview with 2 of them.

One of them turned out to be a job that paid higher than what she had previously been on, and was very excited as it involved learning a few things about magazine artwork that she had always wanted to get involved in before.

Sarah is an example of someone with an optimists mindset and Billy is an example of someone with a pessimists mindset. Situations like these happen regularly in people’s lives and optimists tend to navigate them a lot better.

The key is to always look for the silver lining in any situation. Figure out what could make this challenge turn out to be a ‘blessing in disguise’ and make it into a positive.

When good things happen in life, don’t forget to celebrate those little victories. Don’t brush them off as ‘insignificant’.

If you can view your career as a ‘calling’ rather than a ‘means to an end’, you’ll feel more content and succeed more.

If you can focus on the positives in life, and feel genuinely grateful for all the little things that you have, you’ll have a lot of great days going forwards.

3. Enjoy the Journey as much as the Destination

Life is NOT a series of destinations … More time is spent on the journey, than on reaching any goal or dream.

So it’s important to look to gain more satisfaction and pleasure from the work that goes into achieving that success, than the success itself.

In order to do that, you need to enjoy the process that leads to the outcomes you are looking for.

If you want to win a race, you need to find a way to enjoy the training. And to gain satisfaction from that training.

Otherwise too much is hinging on the results of that race and even if you win, that’s a lot of time spent training, where you could have been enjoying it.

If you don’t win, then it’s important you can enjoy looking back at the journey and effort that went in … And say to yourself you did everything you could have done, and that you are happy with yourself for that.

And that’s well worth celebrating.

Happy people tend to realise the value of challenging themselves … Whether or not the success comes at the end is of less significance than how much effort was put in.

If you put more effort in, and enjoy facing great challenges, then it’s inevitable you’ll achieve many great outcomes in life.

And you’ll enjoy more of life in the process.

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4. Keep Up Your Social Relationships

“Countless studies have found that social relationships are the best guarantee of heightened well-being and lowered stress, both an antidote for depression and a prescription for high performance.” – Shawn Achor, Author, “The Happiness Advantage”

Harvard University conducted the most extensive study ever on adult development. They tracked the lives of 724 men from 1938, over 75 years.

One of their key findings was that good social relationships are the key factor that matters the most for long-lasting happiness.

“The lesson that came from tens of thousands of pages of that research was that good relationships heek up happier and healthier,” says Dr Robert Waldinger, a psychiatrist and director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development.

What’s more, dozens of other studies have been conducted over the years, that have also shown that people who have satisfying relationships are happier and live longer.

So make sure to always make time to prioritize family and friendships.

Be kind to others also, it’s not just about ‘spending time’ with them, though that is certainly a critical factor.

Make sure to help out others who need it, both with your time, and/or your resources.

“A long line of empirical research, including one study of over 2,000 people, has shown that acts of altruism—giving to friends and strangers alike—decrease stress and strongly contribute to enhanced mental health.” – Shawn Achor, Author, The Happiness Advantage.

5. Improve Your Nutrition

One of the 4 main ‘happiness hormones’ is Serotonin. And it is estimated that up to 90% of it is produced in the gut.

That’s why what you eat and drink also plays an important role in your overall feelings of happiness in life.

One small study of people with mild-to-moderate anxiety or depression found that taking probiotics for 6 weeks significantly improved their symptoms…

…While another study found that taking probiotics (galactooligosacharides) for 3 weeks, significantly reduces the amount of cortisol in the body (a stress hormone).

One natural way to build up a healthy gut is to decrease sugar and processed food intake, while increasing intake of natural whole foods.

Fermented foods like Sauerkraut are excellent for your gut.

Vegetables and fruit are also good for your gut and help produce more of those microbes that are responsible for Serotonin production.

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6. Chaos Leads To Frustration … Create SYSTEMS That Lead To Success

“I value self discipline … But creating systems that make it next to impossible to misbehave is more reliable than self control.” – Tim Ferris, Author, The 4 Hour Work Week.

Most people live their lives as though many of the situations that happen to them are erratic occurrences.

But really, it’s a series of logical and complete systems, some big, some small, that are playing out over and over again …

… And you have the ability to create, edit and nurture these systems, so that you have the life that you want.

Just merely having that realisation that your entire life can be redesigned to be whatever you want it to be, can give you a lasting feeling of additional happiness and clarity about your future.

What you need to do is pay attention to things that you WANT and things that happen that you DON’T WANT.

Then you need to break them down into the systems that need to be in place to cause (or prevent) them from happening.

This applies to all areas of life: Home, work, health, relationships and goal achievement.

Here’s an example…

John’s wife, Felicity, was feeling overwhelmed with all the housework she was doing at home. They have 3 kids and every day the mess kept piling up, and it was causing her stress.

John decided to make a system to help her.

He made a list of things that the kids had to do when they got home from school each day.

If they completed all their ‘jobs’ then they get to have 1 hour of ‘free play’ time before dinner.

If they didn’t do the ‘jobs’ then they not only missed out on the ‘free play’ time, but they got a bit of a lecture about ‘doing their part’ to help out in the family, and how valuable this is to their mom.

Within 2 weeks, the kids were getting their clothes put in the wash, getting their lunchboxes out and cleaned, their homework was being done on autopilot, and they were cleaning up after themselves if they made any snacks…

…Felicity was elated! This little change in the system by which they lived their lives made a big improvement to their overall happiness.

The kids noticed how their Mom was more peppy too, and they felt great at being more self-sufficient.

It was a win-win all around.

This is an example of how a change in the system by which you live your life can make a big impact on your future.

There are many examples, for instance automatically saving 3% of your income, can lead to more vacations… Or always making sure treats in the house are harder to get to than healthy snacks, can lead to healthier eating… etc, etc.

The key is, look at the systems by which you live your life, and work to improve them.

7. Accept What Is … Chase Damn Hard For What ‘Could Be’

According to a study of 5,000 people, by the University of Hetfordshire, self acceptance is one of the most critical factors that affects our happiness …

…But is often the one we practice the least.

Acceptance has two parts to it…

  1. Accepting what is, and what has happened to us.
  2. Accepting ourselves and who we are.

The thing is, the past has already happened to us.

So it’s vitally important to cultivate that habit of accepting what has happened to us. Even if it’s unfair.

It’s important to look for any possible silver linings, to learn those lessons, and to form an exciting plan for the future.

It’s also crucial that we love ourselves as we are, and don’t place limits on ‘I’ll love myself when…’

You are already great. You are already a wonderful human being. Don’t wait till you’ve got that pay rise, or you’ve got that perfect relationship, or you’ve lost that stubborn belly fat, before you love yourself …

… Those are goals you may have, but you’ve got to accept what is, love life as it is right now, love yourself as you are right now … AND chase damn hard for what could be.

It’s time to get excited and happy about life as it is.

Love the challenge, love the journey you are on, and focus on cultivating these 7 habits.

They’ll lead to an overall feeling of more happiness in your life.

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October 14, 2020
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The Six Deadliest “Conversation Mistakes” You Make With Women

“The Six Most Deadly Conversation Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women” And What To Do About It…”

Here are the top five ways men murder their conversations with women before they ever even have a chance to create attraction.

Let’s face it…

If you want to create attraction in a woman… you must possess the ability to talk.

You can know all the “secret attraction building techniques” in the world… but if you can’t carry a conversation… YOU GET NO WHERE….  (Don’t worry, we’ll discuss some of those “secret attraction building techniques in later newsletters)

Right now I want to concentrate on the exact ways you’re killing your conversations… probably without realizing it.

Mistake #1:  Breaking the 90/10 Rule When Starting a Conversation

Have you ever noticed that most conversations don’t pick up steam until about 5-10 minutes in?

This is because when you start talking to someone new, especially somebody you do not know yet, they are going to be just as cold inside their heads as you were before you psyche yourself up – making yourself ready to start that conversation.

A conversation needs time to build “conversation momentum.”

The problem most guys face is that don’t ever give their conversations a chance to build that “momentum.”

Most guys expect to hit this “conversation flow” too quickly.  And because of this the opposite effect happens… and their conversations just “stall out.”

Well you have to carry the conversation. Be prepared, in the first five or so minutes, to carry the conversation by providing 90, or even sometimes 100, percent of all the content until they get warmed up a little bit.

How do you do that?

Keep talking!
Well the rule is very simple: Just keep talking.

By taking control of the conversation right from the beginning, you allow her time to “warm up” and shift her brain from “receive mode” rather than “give mode.”

In future lessons I’m going to show you exactly what tools you need to be able to do this… but for now, just know you HAVE be prepared to talk 90% of the time for the first 5-10 minutes of your conversations….

Mistake #2: Not Recognizing the Signals a Woman is Giving Them

You have to recognize the signals that women are giving to you so you know whether you have got the right kind of emotional intensity – the right energy – and whether the topics you are talking about are actually even appropriate for this point in the conversation.

How do you do that?

Well, you use your senses. Your eyes and your ears are your best friends. You have got to watch people’s reactions and learn to be able to read them.

You have a good sense of when you are boring her, when she is excited and how she is reacting to you. You just have to make sure you pay attention.

The rule of thumb is when you first start a conversation with someone or with a group of people you want to have a little bit more energy than that group had before you came in.

If you get to recognize where she is at in terms of her energy level, her enthusiasm, her excitement, how her neurology is wired up and lit up, and you can pitch your own energy level to be just slightly above that, you will be sure to be a success wherever you go because you will not be too much and you will not be too little.

Mistake #3:  Not Assuming Rapport Right From the Beginning

For the longest time I could never understand why it took so long for me to develop rapport with women… while my friends seem to jump right into it…

And then it hit me…

I was waiting for rapport to happen naturally… they were assuming it.

When you are talking to a woman, even if it’s your first time talking to her… talk to her in the same laid back way you would talk to an old friend.

Most guys do the complete opposite… they talk to a woman in a “stiff, formal” way reserved for strangers…. And this just makes it more apparent that you are a STRANGER.  And this puts her guard up.  And this creates that uncomfortable “awkwardness” that is devastating to a conversation.

By jumping right into rapport you create a more natural feeling conversation and give her the feeling of “knowing you forever.”

Mistake #4:  Going into “Interview Mode”

I know you’ve experienced it… talking to a woman, and feeling like you’re on a job interview.

This is the dreaded “interview mode.”

This happens when you don’t know what to talk about so to keep the conversation going you ask questions like:

What do you do for a living?
What do you do for fun?
Where did you grow up?
What kind of music do you like?

It’s not the questions themselves that kill you… the rapid firing of question after question… and the steady stream of fact based answers that destroy any sort of “chemistry.”

A conversation is supposed to fun vibing back and forth… it’s not supposed to feel like a job interview.

Mistake #5:  Letting her “Lead” the Conversation

Most guys are so unsure of themselves when talking to a woman that they look for the woman to give them “approval” or “permission” before they take any lead in the conversation.

And this is DEAD wrong.

The minute a woman realizes you’re looking to her to lead the conversation… her attraction instantly disappears.

Most guys let the woman lead the conversation because they are scared of “pissing her off” or choosing the wrong topic…

But here is the thing…

Women will follow whatever tone you set for the conversation.  If you set a fun, flirty vibe… she will follow.

And even if she isn’t interested in the topic you’ve chose to discuss… she’ll still respect you a lot more for taking the initiative.

The Biggest Mistake:

Do you want to know what the biggest mistake men make in regards to their conversations with women?

Not getting help.

Would you believe that 10 years ago it was nearly impossible to find this sort of information on improving your conversations with women?  This meant that guys were forced to either struggle forever, or figure it out on their own.

However, you have no excuse… as there is help available.  Help that can change your “game” almost overnight.

Even though it has been close to five years since I last struggled with this… I still know the pain you feel… I had felt it for more than two thirds of my life.  And I don’t wish that pain on anyone.

Now, I know that anytime, anywhere I can go out and talk to women and create attraction.

This is what fueled to me to create a program about this.  I asked 5 of the guys I know who are the absolute best at talking to women… to join me on this program to help create that change in you – a lot quicker than it took me.

It’s jam packed with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for creating the right mindset for talking to a woman, getting “in the zone”, making her laugh, creating rapport, keeping a conversation flowing naturally, overcoming “shit tests”, dealing with guys who might be overshadowing you, and most importantly, creating attraction as you talk to her…

This is arguably the most comprehensive “conversation training” you will ever receive.  There is no way you can listen to this program and not come away with at least a dozen tips that will change the way you communicate with women …nearly immediately.

>>>Check out Conversation Escalation: Make Small Talk Sexy and learn how to instantly generate attraction through the way you talk to women.