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October 14, 2020
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7 Keys to Feeling Happier in Life

Happiness does not come from reaching the top of the mountain, or by reaching our goals…

…It comes from LOVING the journey and the process that gets us there.

It doesn’t come from realising we no longer need to change and grow…

…It comes from realising we CAN change and grow, and that is something to be EXCITED about.

Studies have shown that happier people become more productive and achieve more of their goals in life…

…Yet unfortunately, so many people believe in the myth that happiness is caused the other way around (that they must ‘achieve success’ in order to feel happy).

“I’ll be happy when …” is a dangerous statement to make. And it sets people up to go months, or years, without allowing themselves to feel happy.

And even when reaching the top of a mountain, the human condition is to feel elated for a moment…

…Only to then see that as the new normal, and now need to achieve the next goal to feel happy.

There are 4 main chemicals in the brain that influence our feelings of happiness…

Dopamine
Oxytocin
Serotonin
Endorphins

And each plays a different role in how we experience happiness.

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Dopamine is what we feel when we enjoy striving for a goal.

Oxytocin is what we feel when we are being social.

Serotonin is what we feel when we are in a good mood. Interestingly up to 90% of Serotonin is produced in the gut, and is heavily influenced by what we feed ourselves.

Endorphins are associated with the fight or flight response, and are what helps push you through challenging periods in life, or with fighting towards difficult goals.

Here are 7 keys to feeling happier in life…

By feeling happier on a daily basis, you’ll in turn find that your productivity will improve AND you’ll achieve more of what you want in your life…

1. Cultivate a Growth-Oriented Mindset

According to Carol Dweck, Professor of Psychology at Stanford University, there are two main mindsets we can navigate through life with … Growth and Fixed.

People with a fixed mindset believe that their abilities and intelligence levels are static. So they tend to plateau in everything they work towards, as they believe they have reached their predetermined potential.

In reality, they tend to achieve far less than their true potential. And go through life less happy than those with a growth oriented mindset.

Those with a Growth Mindset believe that their abilities and intelligence can improve over time.

That means they can not only get better at learning a particular skill, but their actual ability to learn can improve also.

Those with a growth mindset tend to feel happier, as they see their potential for success as being far greater than those with a static mindset.

This belief in their potential leads to a more positive view of the world, and also leads to much more positive long term results in life.

Those with the fixed mindset tend to get more consumed with ‘proving themselves’ while those with the growth mindset, get more consumed with taking action that leads to the outcomes they are looking for.

The growth mindset leads to a powerful passion for learning, and for stretching yourself (even when things aren’t going well).

The growth mindset leads to enjoying obstacles and seeing them and opportunities for learning and self improvement.

2. Develop and Optimists View of the World

In many situations optimists and pessimists are both right … However, in life, optimists tend to be happier and achieve more success.

Optimists also suffer less anxiety, depression and stress than pessimists. Optimists are also more action-oriented than pessimists.

So it’s not just what happens to you that is an important determinant of how happy you are … It’s how you interpret the situations as they happen.

Billy and Sarah both lost their jobs at a magazine publishing company.

Billy took it badly, and while he sent out job applications to 30 companies, he took 3 months before he finally found a replacement job. His new job quickly became highly stressful and he is upset that bad things keep happening to him.

Sarah was upset at losing her job. She had a cry on her husband’s shoulder but woke up the next morning with a new lease on life. She decided that this was going to be an opportunity to make life even better than before.

So she wrote up her new resume, and decided to get picky about the jobs she applied for. She applied for 7 jobs and got an interview with 2 of them.

One of them turned out to be a job that paid higher than what she had previously been on, and was very excited as it involved learning a few things about magazine artwork that she had always wanted to get involved in before.

Sarah is an example of someone with an optimists mindset and Billy is an example of someone with a pessimists mindset. Situations like these happen regularly in people’s lives and optimists tend to navigate them a lot better.

The key is to always look for the silver lining in any situation. Figure out what could make this challenge turn out to be a ‘blessing in disguise’ and make it into a positive.

When good things happen in life, don’t forget to celebrate those little victories. Don’t brush them off as ‘insignificant’.

If you can view your career as a ‘calling’ rather than a ‘means to an end’, you’ll feel more content and succeed more.

If you can focus on the positives in life, and feel genuinely grateful for all the little things that you have, you’ll have a lot of great days going forwards.

3. Enjoy the Journey as much as the Destination

Life is NOT a series of destinations … More time is spent on the journey, than on reaching any goal or dream.

So it’s important to look to gain more satisfaction and pleasure from the work that goes into achieving that success, than the success itself.

In order to do that, you need to enjoy the process that leads to the outcomes you are looking for.

If you want to win a race, you need to find a way to enjoy the training. And to gain satisfaction from that training.

Otherwise too much is hinging on the results of that race and even if you win, that’s a lot of time spent training, where you could have been enjoying it.

If you don’t win, then it’s important you can enjoy looking back at the journey and effort that went in … And say to yourself you did everything you could have done, and that you are happy with yourself for that.

And that’s well worth celebrating.

Happy people tend to realise the value of challenging themselves … Whether or not the success comes at the end is of less significance than how much effort was put in.

If you put more effort in, and enjoy facing great challenges, then it’s inevitable you’ll achieve many great outcomes in life.

And you’ll enjoy more of life in the process.

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4. Keep Up Your Social Relationships

“Countless studies have found that social relationships are the best guarantee of heightened well-being and lowered stress, both an antidote for depression and a prescription for high performance.” – Shawn Achor, Author, “The Happiness Advantage”

Harvard University conducted the most extensive study ever on adult development. They tracked the lives of 724 men from 1938, over 75 years.

One of their key findings was that good social relationships are the key factor that matters the most for long-lasting happiness.

“The lesson that came from tens of thousands of pages of that research was that good relationships heek up happier and healthier,” says Dr Robert Waldinger, a psychiatrist and director of the Harvard Study of Adult Development.

What’s more, dozens of other studies have been conducted over the years, that have also shown that people who have satisfying relationships are happier and live longer.

So make sure to always make time to prioritize family and friendships.

Be kind to others also, it’s not just about ‘spending time’ with them, though that is certainly a critical factor.

Make sure to help out others who need it, both with your time, and/or your resources.

“A long line of empirical research, including one study of over 2,000 people, has shown that acts of altruism—giving to friends and strangers alike—decrease stress and strongly contribute to enhanced mental health.” – Shawn Achor, Author, The Happiness Advantage.

5. Improve Your Nutrition

One of the 4 main ‘happiness hormones’ is Serotonin. And it is estimated that up to 90% of it is produced in the gut.

That’s why what you eat and drink also plays an important role in your overall feelings of happiness in life.

One small study of people with mild-to-moderate anxiety or depression found that taking probiotics for 6 weeks significantly improved their symptoms…

…While another study found that taking probiotics (galactooligosacharides) for 3 weeks, significantly reduces the amount of cortisol in the body (a stress hormone).

One natural way to build up a healthy gut is to decrease sugar and processed food intake, while increasing intake of natural whole foods.

Fermented foods like Sauerkraut are excellent for your gut.

Vegetables and fruit are also good for your gut and help produce more of those microbes that are responsible for Serotonin production.

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6. Chaos Leads To Frustration … Create SYSTEMS That Lead To Success

“I value self discipline … But creating systems that make it next to impossible to misbehave is more reliable than self control.” – Tim Ferris, Author, The 4 Hour Work Week.

Most people live their lives as though many of the situations that happen to them are erratic occurrences.

But really, it’s a series of logical and complete systems, some big, some small, that are playing out over and over again …

… And you have the ability to create, edit and nurture these systems, so that you have the life that you want.

Just merely having that realisation that your entire life can be redesigned to be whatever you want it to be, can give you a lasting feeling of additional happiness and clarity about your future.

What you need to do is pay attention to things that you WANT and things that happen that you DON’T WANT.

Then you need to break them down into the systems that need to be in place to cause (or prevent) them from happening.

This applies to all areas of life: Home, work, health, relationships and goal achievement.

Here’s an example…

John’s wife, Felicity, was feeling overwhelmed with all the housework she was doing at home. They have 3 kids and every day the mess kept piling up, and it was causing her stress.

John decided to make a system to help her.

He made a list of things that the kids had to do when they got home from school each day.

If they completed all their ‘jobs’ then they get to have 1 hour of ‘free play’ time before dinner.

If they didn’t do the ‘jobs’ then they not only missed out on the ‘free play’ time, but they got a bit of a lecture about ‘doing their part’ to help out in the family, and how valuable this is to their mom.

Within 2 weeks, the kids were getting their clothes put in the wash, getting their lunchboxes out and cleaned, their homework was being done on autopilot, and they were cleaning up after themselves if they made any snacks…

…Felicity was elated! This little change in the system by which they lived their lives made a big improvement to their overall happiness.

The kids noticed how their Mom was more peppy too, and they felt great at being more self-sufficient.

It was a win-win all around.

This is an example of how a change in the system by which you live your life can make a big impact on your future.

There are many examples, for instance automatically saving 3% of your income, can lead to more vacations… Or always making sure treats in the house are harder to get to than healthy snacks, can lead to healthier eating… etc, etc.

The key is, look at the systems by which you live your life, and work to improve them.

7. Accept What Is … Chase Damn Hard For What ‘Could Be’

According to a study of 5,000 people, by the University of Hetfordshire, self acceptance is one of the most critical factors that affects our happiness …

…But is often the one we practice the least.

Acceptance has two parts to it…

Accepting what is, and what has happened to us.
Accepting ourselves and who we are.

The thing is, the past has already happened to us.

So it’s vitally important to cultivate that habit of accepting what has happened to us. Even if it’s unfair.

It’s important to look for any possible silver linings, to learn those lessons, and to form an exciting plan for the future.

It’s also crucial that we love ourselves as we are, and don’t place limits on ‘I’ll love myself when…’

You are already great. You are already a wonderful human being. Don’t wait till you’ve got that pay rise, or you’ve got that perfect relationship, or you’ve lost that stubborn belly fat, before you love yourself …

… Those are goals you may have, but you’ve got to accept what is, love life as it is right now, love yourself as you are right now … AND chase damn hard for what could be.

It’s time to get excited and happy about life as it is.

Love the challenge, love the journey you are on, and focus on cultivating these 7 habits.

They’ll lead to an overall feeling of more happiness in your life.

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October 14, 2020
by namktqs
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The Six Deadliest “Conversation Mistakes” You Make With Women

“The Six Most Deadly Conversation Mistakes YOU Probably Make With Women” And What To Do About It…”

Here are the top five ways men murder their conversations with women before they ever even have a chance to create attraction.

Let’s face it…

If you want to create attraction in a woman… you must possess the ability to talk.

You can know all the “secret attraction building techniques” in the world… but if you can’t carry a conversation… YOU GET NO WHERE…. (Don’t worry, we’ll discuss some of those “secret attraction building techniques in later newsletters)

Right now I want to concentrate on the exact ways you’re killing your conversations… probably without realizing it.

Mistake #1: Breaking the 90/10 Rule When Starting a Conversation

Have you ever noticed that most conversations don’t pick up steam until about 5-10 minutes in?

This is because when you start talking to someone new, especially somebody you do not know yet, they are going to be just as cold inside their heads as you were before you psyche yourself up – making yourself ready to start that conversation.

A conversation needs time to build “conversation momentum.”

The problem most guys face is that don’t ever give their conversations a chance to build that “momentum.”

Most guys expect to hit this “conversation flow” too quickly. And because of this the opposite effect happens… and their conversations just “stall out.”

Well you have to carry the conversation. Be prepared, in the first five or so minutes, to carry the conversation by providing 90, or even sometimes 100, percent of all the content until they get warmed up a little bit.

How do you do that?

Keep talking!
Well the rule is very simple: Just keep talking.

By taking control of the conversation right from the beginning, you allow her time to “warm up” and shift her brain from “receive mode” rather than “give mode.”

In future lessons I’m going to show you exactly what tools you need to be able to do this… but for now, just know you HAVE be prepared to talk 90% of the time for the first 5-10 minutes of your conversations….

Mistake #2: Not Recognizing the Signals a Woman is Giving Them

You have to recognize the signals that women are giving to you so you know whether you have got the right kind of emotional intensity – the right energy – and whether the topics you are talking about are actually even appropriate for this point in the conversation.

How do you do that?

Well, you use your senses. Your eyes and your ears are your best friends. You have got to watch people’s reactions and learn to be able to read them.

You have a good sense of when you are boring her, when she is excited and how she is reacting to you. You just have to make sure you pay attention.

The rule of thumb is when you first start a conversation with someone or with a group of people you want to have a little bit more energy than that group had before you came in.

If you get to recognize where she is at in terms of her energy level, her enthusiasm, her excitement, how her neurology is wired up and lit up, and you can pitch your own energy level to be just slightly above that, you will be sure to be a success wherever you go because you will not be too much and you will not be too little.

Mistake #3: Not Assuming Rapport Right From the Beginning

For the longest time I could never understand why it took so long for me to develop rapport with women… while my friends seem to jump right into it…

And then it hit me…

I was waiting for rapport to happen naturally… they were assuming it.

When you are talking to a woman, even if it’s your first time talking to her… talk to her in the same laid back way you would talk to an old friend.

Most guys do the complete opposite… they talk to a woman in a “stiff, formal” way reserved for strangers…. And this just makes it more apparent that you are a STRANGER. And this puts her guard up. And this creates that uncomfortable “awkwardness” that is devastating to a conversation.

By jumping right into rapport you create a more natural feeling conversation and give her the feeling of “knowing you forever.”

Mistake #4: Going into “Interview Mode”

I know you’ve experienced it… talking to a woman, and feeling like you’re on a job interview.

This is the dreaded “interview mode.”

This happens when you don’t know what to talk about so to keep the conversation going you ask questions like:

What do you do for a living?
What do you do for fun?
Where did you grow up?
What kind of music do you like?

It’s not the questions themselves that kill you… the rapid firing of question after question… and the steady stream of fact based answers that destroy any sort of “chemistry.”

A conversation is supposed to fun vibing back and forth… it’s not supposed to feel like a job interview.

Mistake #5: Letting her “Lead” the Conversation

Most guys are so unsure of themselves when talking to a woman that they look for the woman to give them “approval” or “permission” before they take any lead in the conversation.

And this is DEAD wrong.

The minute a woman realizes you’re looking to her to lead the conversation… her attraction instantly disappears.

Most guys let the woman lead the conversation because they are scared of “pissing her off” or choosing the wrong topic…

But here is the thing…

Women will follow whatever tone you set for the conversation. If you set a fun, flirty vibe… she will follow.

And even if she isn’t interested in the topic you’ve chose to discuss… she’ll still respect you a lot more for taking the initiative.

The Biggest Mistake:

Do you want to know what the biggest mistake men make in regards to their conversations with women?

Not getting help.

Would you believe that 10 years ago it was nearly impossible to find this sort of information on improving your conversations with women? This meant that guys were forced to either struggle forever, or figure it out on their own.

However, you have no excuse… as there is help available. Help that can change your “game” almost overnight.

Even though it has been close to five years since I last struggled with this… I still know the pain you feel… I had felt it for more than two thirds of my life. And I don’t wish that pain on anyone.

Now, I know that anytime, anywhere I can go out and talk to women and create attraction.

This is what fueled to me to create a program about this. I asked 5 of the guys I know who are the absolute best at talking to women… to join me on this program to help create that change in you – a lot quicker than it took me.

It’s jam packed with dozens and dozens of specific strategies for creating the right mindset for talking to a woman, getting “in the zone”, making her laugh, creating rapport, keeping a conversation flowing naturally, overcoming “shit tests”, dealing with guys who might be overshadowing you, and most importantly, creating attraction as you talk to her…

This is arguably the most comprehensive “conversation training” you will ever receive. There is no way you can listen to this program and not come away with at least a dozen tips that will change the way you communicate with women …nearly immediately.

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June 14, 2016
by namktqs
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Changing Limiting Beliefs: The Secrets Revealed

The secret to move ahead in life is pretty simple. It is all about changing limiting beliefs into empowering ones. If you are able to do that successfully, there is no doubt you will be a far happier, confident and successful person.

Beliefs have the power to influence your outcome and destiny in life. But while positive beliefs can be extremely motivating and can help the individual get far ahead in life, negative beliefs always work the opposite way by holding people back and lowering their self esteem.

Identifying Limiting Beliefs.

Changing limiting beliefs is not as hard as you think it might be. First, tell yourself that you will do all that it takes to overcome your negative beliefs; and this you can do by identifying them in the first place.

There is no point being in denial. If you have some beliefs that you know is detrimental to your progress, admit it to yourself.

For instance, you believe it is a bad time to turn into an entrepreneur because you think the economy is in bad shape. That’s the only reason why you are sticking to a dead end job, even though you have a great idea that has every potential of becoming successful.

Instead of telling yourself that the time is not right time to begin your dream venture, believe that despite the condition of the economy, there is (and always will be) space for a great product or a superior service.

Just affirming this will change your entire perspective. You will find yourself enthused enough to make an exit route from your job in order to set up your venture.

Changing limiting beliefs has the power of igniting your passion. If you are really passionate about what you want to do, you will even find that things will fall in place sooner than later.

Shedding Emotional Baggage and Reframing Evidence.

More often than not, limiting beliefs remain with an individual because of either two things… first, there are some emotional payoffs; and secondly, there are supportive evidence to their beliefs.

Let’s cite examples and solutions for both cases. In the first case (having emotional payoffs), somebody who is dying to break out of the mould of being stuck in a dead end job, may be stuck to it because he has a family to support. He has trained himself to believe that if he does what his heart desires, he will let down his family.

If you can relate to this, the solution is simple… you’ve got to shed it. If supporting your family is what you are worried about, think of a backup plan. Save up enough for a period of time, so that you can opt out without the guilt.

In the second case (having supportive evidence to the belief), an individual may tell himself that there are failures all around him due to recessionary pressures so he shies away from the idea of entrepreneurship.

The solution to this dilemma is to reframe it. For instance, if you are telling yourself that there have been other entrepreunial failures, don’t blame it on the recessionary pressures. The reason for their failure may have been due to their inability to think through their business plan. All you have to do is make a fool proof business plan and follow through.

It may seem difficult at first, but following these suggestions can help a great deal in changing limiting beliefs. At the end of the day, you will feel much more empowered, just like a butterfly who has broken out of a cocoon and is ready to fly away to enjoy the wonders that life has to offer ahead!

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April 15, 2016
by namktqs
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Dream, Believe, and Achieve

Are you living a boring, insignificant life? Can’t you seem to find anything exciting?

You wake up in the morning, then do the same old rituals. You go to the office or to school. You meet the same people, do the same job, travel the same road, booooring. Next day, same story.

Do you want a change in your life? The solution is YOU! You’re the master of your destiny. You decide if you want to have a change or not. If you dream and believe it, you can achieve it!

Take the situation of a high school graduate. He have 2 choices – to continue through college or earn money working as a clerk.

He’s intimidated by the difficulties of studying, thesis, etc. He doesn’t think he will pass the exams because he thinks he’s below average. He doesn’t like to take the risk of failing college and earning no money at present.

So he works as a clerk earning meager income. He’s happy because he’s earning money at such a young age while his friends are having a hard time.

But then his friends graduated and got high-paying jobs. He envies them. If only he have sacrificed a few years and faced all the challenges of college, then he could’ve had a better life. If only he had taken the risk!

There are also some people who want to improve their lives, but they’re just too afraid to come out of their comfort zones and explore the endless opportunities out there.

Yes, there may be challenges and problems; but if you try your best to move forward, you’ll get more out of life. Associate yourself with positive people and things, and you will attain success faster than you have ever expected.

Explore and diversify. Take a different route to work, eat exotic foods you’ve never tasted, do something outrageous (not dangerous).

Life could be exciting. It’s your choice. Are you contented with your life right now? If not, then you need to do the things that you think will make your life complete and meaningful.

You’ve got only one life to live. Maximize every opportunity. Go out and do those things which will leave lasting memories in your mind. Live every day as if it’s your last.

Seize every moment!

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March 12, 2016
by namktqs
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The Great Power Of Believing In Yourself

“The man who thinks he can and the man who thinks he can’t are both right. Which one are you?” – Henry Ford.

This simple quote holds true in just about every aspect of human life. We often forget that we have been blessed with the gift of belief. And if you truly exercise the power of believing in yourself, there is nothing that can stop you from moving mountains if you so wish.

Figuratively speaking, even a tiny ant can overthrow an elephant if it so wishes, just because it has complete faith in its abilities. You do have the power of making any changes to your life, if you so wish.

Obliterate Negative Thoughts.

If there is any iota of doubt that keeps creeping up and hindering you from moving forward in life, all you have to do is tell yourself, “I can do this!”

This simple statement will give you the confidence to push through the challenges to be successful in your endeavours. Niggling doubts and fears will be stomped out firmly just with the power of believing in yourself.

Many times in life, we grow up with a set of beliefs. These may be influenced by our childhood experiences, the atmosphere we have grown up in, or some particular events that have been transformational.

Some of these beliefs really motivate a person to get ahead and achieve all that they want; but some beliefs can also be severely detrimental.

Limiting beliefs can put a person behind in life. You may come across scores of such people who lack the courage or determination to achieve a target, just because they do not believe in themselves. In fact they are always looking for excuses not to pursue a set target, because they find it discomforting to break the mould that they have built around themselves.

Make a Meaningful Change in Your Life.

If you do not want to be counted in this group of individuals, you have to trust the power of believing in yourself. Do not listen to those voices in your head that make you fearful whenever you think of making a bold decision, because those are your limiting beliefs.

Instead, tell yourself loudly that you can accomplish anything, and stop those negative thoughts right where they begin! They are always the culprits, and they try very hard to sabotage your attempts at going ahead with your plans.

All you have to do is simply erase these restrictive thoughts as soon as they emerge and immediately replace them with positive thoughts. It may not be automatic at the start; but if you do this often, you will find this practice gets easier each time.

When you constantly motivate yourself and fill your head with positive thoughts, you will see the negative and impairing thoughts becoming weaker and weaker; and eventually, they will make an exit from your life!

If you are able to combine the power of believing in yourself with the right doses of courage and determination, you will see significant changes in your life.