When you’ve been dumped out of the blue by the guy you know is Mr. Right, the one thing you want more than anything else in the world is to get your boyfriend back.
Unfortunately, the logistics of exactly how to do that are a little harder to lock down than you expect. But, there is a bit of a silver lining to consider.
In most situations, you still have a little bit of time on your hands to work on winning him back. That’s right. All is not lost — at least not yet.
You still have a chance to get your boyfriend back. Here’s what you need to do.
Hold Your Head Up High
Most women in your situation lock themselves up for days or weeks on end. They cut themselves off from the world and hide.
Don’t let this happen to you. You broke up. It wasn’t your choice. You weren’t the bad guy (well, GIRL). You have NOTHING to be ashamed of.
If you lock yourself away you’re letting him think you’re crying your heart out over him. Even if you are doing more than your fair share of crying, you don’t want HIM to know.
Going out and rejoining the world with your head high gives him pause. It makes him wonder why you aren’t crying in corner.
It forces HIM to turn his thoughts to YOU! This is a very good thing as far as getting him back goes.
Invest in Yourself
Now is a great time to invest in YOU! A breakup is a big change in your life. While it may not be the type of change you were hoping for or one you can get excited about, change is not, at its core a bad thing.
What kind of changes should you make? You want to focus on changes that are improvements — changes that make you FEEL better. Empowering changes. Confidence-boosting changes.
2) Wardrobe update
3) New hairstyle
6) Career/Personal coaching
7) Self-help books and recordings
8) Dietary and nutrition changes
9) Fitness and health changes
While it may seem that these changes are all about him, they’re really all about you. If you want to get HIM back, you must approach the process from a position of power.
You can’t return to him on your knees begging for a second chance. If you still want to get your boyfriend back after you’ve done these things then you walk in the door, with your head held high, and fully understanding that you are worth a second chance.
Once you fully understand your contribution to the relationship and the value you add to his life, he’ll have no choice but to recognize it too. If he doesn’t, then he never really deserved you in the first place.