You’ve been fighting the good fight to get your ex back for a long time now. No matter how hard you try or how long you fight, you just can’t seem to get the result you’re looking for. You know you still love your ex. There’s no doubt about that. But, you’re beginning to wonder if you should just give up. You’re starting to think you should try to move on with your life. How do you know when it’s time to move on?
“Of all the words of mice and men, the saddest are, ‘It might have been.'” — Kurt Vonnegut.
Sometimes, the best choice is to move on. But, if you’re not ready to make that choice (in your heart, mind, and soul); it’s one that will leave you haunted with questions for as long as you live. You’ll always have this niggling doubt of “what if?” lingering in the back of your mind.
Before you give up on getting your ex back, perhaps it’s time to change your approach.
What have you done to get your ex back?
You say you?ve tried everything and that nothing is working. Have you tried nothing?
I know it sounds completely counterintuitive to do nothing and expect results, but if what you’ve been doing isn’t working and you’re already contemplating giving up, what does it hurt to make it appear as though you have?
The amazing thing about human nature is that we want what we don’t have. As long as you’re trying to get your ex back, your ex knows that he (or she) has you. You’re going to be there if your ex calls and asks for help or just needs a friendly ear — and your ex knows it. Let your ex get a taste of what life is truly like without you in it.
That’s when your ex is going to begin to realize what was lost when the relationship ended. As long as you’re calling, texting, coming by, and lending support in countless other ways, your ex hasn’t lost anything. Your ex hasn’t felt the loss of the relationship because your ex is still receiving the benefits of the relationship.
Make yourself scarce, if not completely absent from your ex’s life and see how long it takes your ex to come to you. Don’t let this time go idly by. Use it wisely to develop a plan of action for what you’re going to do and say when you’re ex does decide to pick up the phone to see how you’re doing. I can help you with that!