The decision to get back together with your ex may have been on your mind for quite a while. In fact, this may be the one recurring theme in your mind since the moments immediately following the breakup. No one likes being dumped. It hurts. It makes you feel as though you have no control over what’s going on in your life and it leaves you feeling powerless and at the mercy of your emotions. None of these are good feelings. Add them to the broken heart you’re suffering from and the pain my seem unbearable.
As difficult as the concept seems at the moment, this will pass in time. You must be willing to take the time to allow it to happen though. That’s often the most difficult part of the healing process. After all, we live in an “on demand” society. We want fast cash, fast food, fast checking, express elevators, and even express rides at amusement parks. The wait for your broken heart to recover might seem interminable. That’s why so many people decide that getting back together with your ex is the quick fix to all your pain problems. However, that can create more problems than it eliminates if you don’t take a little time to plan every part of the process carefully.
A Proper Plan Takes Time
Time is something you really do have. It’s also worth taking at a time like this. Most people make critical mistakes within the first 48-hours of a breakup that put their efforts to win an ex back behind by months – or longer. If you took the time to take a step back and plan it out properly, these mistakes could easily have been avoided. More importantly, you’d have had time to a do, at the very lead, a little cursory research to find out exactly what they are.
You Must be Committed
If you really want to win your ex back, you must be committed to the cause, even if the plan you’re following seems counter-intuitive (the best plans do). This isn’t a quickie fix. If you’re trying to get back together with your ex, chances are good that there’s a reason the relationship ended in the first place. You’re must be committed to the part of making positive, lasting changes (don’t worry, most of them are completely painless) in order to make things work this time around.
What if the Answer is No?
Despite the best planning on your part, the answer you get is sometimes not the answer you want. You may lose a battle or two along the way. That doesn’t mean you’ve necessarily lost the war.
It is, however, time to fall back, regroup, and renew. More importantly, it’s time for a change of tactics. I can help you with that!