It’s an ages-old question. In the dawn of man, it was simple. It was a biological imperative. That’s why many religions in those times condoned and even encouraged men to have multiple wives, concubines, and consort. It was to assure survival of the species. We’re talking about a time where one in three children died before the age of one. Science and education have brought about many advances. However, women are still sometimes held hostage by biological clocks in the same way men are sometimes tempted to cheat — even when they are happy with their wives.
What does that mean for you?
It means you should take comfort in these next words. It’s not YOUR fault. No matter what preachers on television, mass media, or people selling gym memberships will try to tell you. He didn’t cheat because you’re not thin enough, beautiful enough, good enough in bed, or even because you don’t keep the house clean enough. Will changing these things make him happy? It’s quite likely that if you become the sexiest woman in the neighborhood and suddenly start cleaning house like Donna Reed he will be pleased with the results. However, doing all these things will not prevent him from cheating.
Think about it. Some of the most beautiful women in the world including former Bond girl Halle Berry, Sandra Bullock, Elin Nordegren, and Reese Witherspoon have all been cheated on by men who love them. It’s not always a matter of not being beautiful enough, rich enough, or anything else.
Does This Men all Men Should Get a Free Pass for Cheating?
Absolutely not! The thing about cheating is that it undermines the trust in the relationship at the most basic level. It’s not acceptable in today’s society where marriages are binding emotional contracts. Cheating, breaks that contract and leaves the wife doubting her beauty, her appeal, and her worthiness. It’s an act that is destructive on far too many levels to excuse.
That doesn’t mean, however, that cheating must be the end of the relationship. Nothing could be further from the truth. While celebrity couples that go through it often do not recover (largely due to the intense media scrutiny of the most intimate and painful details of their lives), it doesn’t mean that your relationship can’t survive if you’re both willing to work to make it happen.
The truth is that men cheat for all kinds of reasons. Very few of them have anything to do with the way the other woman looks. It’s more about how she acts and how she makes him FEEL. Now is the perfect opportunity to make the time to learn what you can do to make him feel the same way the other woman does.