Jealousy can be a huge problems for relationships. The green-eyed monster is especially problematic when we live in a world that includes Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn, text messaging, instant messaging, email and so many other ways for people to communicate with each other – including members of the opposite sex.
More and more jobs expect professional employees to have ready access to information at all hours of the day and night and many people must go back into the office after hours on occasion, or never seem to leave the office on other occasions. It leaves the doors wide open for jealous spouses and lovers to leap to the wrong conclusions quite often.
Some Jealousy Can be Good for the Relationship
While your significant other is probably glad to know you care enough for the green-eyed monster to rear its ugly head on occasion, it’s important to avoid making scenes, jumping to conclusions, and levy accusations and allegations without proof. The key is to find balance. You want your partner to know you care, but avoid going overboard with displays of jealousy lest they alarm your partner and cause doubts about the relationship. Trust, after all, is also important. When jealousy is too “over the top” it leaves your partner feeling as though you lack trust.
Reigning in the Green-Eyed Monster
The key is to reign in your jealousy before it becomes problematic. Consider these actions to get your jealousy under control.
* Breathe deeply. Whenever your jealous thoughts are about to spiral out of control, take a moment to breathe in and out slowly and deeply. Focus all your attention on breathing for the next several breaths. This not only helps you calm your raging thoughts but also provides important seconds for clearer thinking to kick in.
* Speak calmly. This is not the time to incite violence or make threatening statements. Let your partner know you’re uncomfortable and explain why in a reasonable tone. Most partners will show respect for your feelings, even if your partner believes they are unfounded, and attempt to get out of the situation if it’s possible.
* Be proactive. When you feel the ugly head of jealousy making an appearance, start looking for thoughts and feelings that will cancel it out. The more active role you take in eliminating jealousy from becoming a problem for your relationship, the less likely it is to become one.
If jealousy has already caused big problems in your relationship, you can still get your ex back once you get your jealousy under control. Then you just need to follow these simple instructions to have your ex back in your arms in no time.